Monday, November 29, 2010

The Virginity Survey

According to recent survey by the National Family Planning Coordination Agency (BKKBN), 51% of school girls in Jakarta and surrounding towns of Bogor, Tangerang and Depok, have experienced premarital sex, there fore not Virgin..

According to TvOne, the survey shows similar results in other cities i.e. Surabaya 54%, Medan 52%, Bandung 47% and Yogjakarta 37%.
The survey also show an estimate of 2,4 million persons conducted abortions every year, 800 thousands of them are teenagers. 

Further, until June 2010 there were 21,770 cases of AIDS, and 47,157 HIV Positive, 48.1% among people between 20-29 years old, and 30.9% between 30-39 years old.

Furthermore, the survey also shows that 78% of the 3,2 million Drug Addicts are teenagers.

Considering the above, I hope that school students would be provided with information about Sex and its consequences.

Photo :  Courtesy of Okezone.


the dream catcher said...

teens will do whatever their friends do and in order to be accepted they will follow whatever their circle doing... Sad facts...

dee said...

It's ironic! choice is in our hand.. sexs education is really important! Nice share Harry.. Thanks!

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ReBorn said...

I also agree sex education should be learned from an early age. school and parents are responsible for sex education in science and religion

Jolly Princess said...

I believe parents have to make their children realize they belong to a family and they are cared for. One reason why teens would go to their friend because that is where they feel they are accepted.

Media is also contributory or should I say accessory. The soaps being aired on television are not very good for young adults. At their young age teens are exposed to violence and early boy girl relationship.

June_Butterfly said...

This is a very complex problem seeing how the times have really changed.But I do agree.The young people should be given proper education about premarital sex.It might lead to abortion that will surely leave a scar and lead to loss of innocent lives.

Sad but true facts of life today.

H. Nizam said...

@The Dream Catcher,
Yes, their parents should maintain good and close relationship with them, so that they would think and act decently.

Sex education is a must.

Memang menyedihkan.

Parents and their children must communicate well on all matters including sex.

You are right, beside good communication between parents
and their children, the media
must also help prevention of free sex by making sure that their programs would not lead that way.

It is very sad indeed, therefore
parents should always maintain good communication with their children.

Kiwi Riverman's Blogesphere said...

Across the world it is teenagers who top the stats - they think they are bullet proof but lack the experience and maturity to realise they are really just walking on hot coals!

H. Nizam said...

What an analogy! Teens seems to be the same where ever they are.

Rob Baiton said...

@ Harry...

The results are not at all surprising. In fact, they probably just confirm what most people already knew anecdotally from their own experiences.

The crazies will be out in force arguing that this is why Indonesia is prone to natural disasters - teenagers getting at it upsets the natural balance and God is annoyed!

The reality is that pre-marital sex is a part of the equation, a very public part of the equation. Previously, it was much easier to sweep it under the carpet and pretend that it did not really happen. Times have changed.

As people, particularly parents, we have to make a decision. Do we want our children to be forewarned and therefore forearmed or do we want them going into these most serious matters blind and ignorant of the facts?

I would rather my children get the "birds and the bees" talk at home and then have that reinforced with specific personal development / health classes at school. The school part is important as this allows them to learn "this stuff" with and among their peers.

Peer pressure is an issue at any point in one's life. It is particularly prevalent in the teen years. So, for me, it is important that my child knows the pros and cons of any endeavour that he is about to embark on.

That said, I am sure that his mum and I will have many an interesting conversation as to how best to do this. Nevertheless, at this point in time we are pretty much on the same page. Although at 2-years-old we still have a lot of time before we are dealing with this. Maybe times will have changed yet again :)

If we really believe that educating our children is important because they are our future, then educate them we must...on all things that will allow them to make informed judgments and decisions.

colson said...

It is not clear going by the figures I saw, the 'ominous' 51% applies to girls only. That may be the case, but the data include boys. I even bet in the relatively conservative conditions in many parts of Indonesia, more boys than girls engage in premarital sex. I assume the percentage for girls probably is slightly less van 51%.

Now I think it's quite normal, at least natural, if healthy teenagers feel the urge of sexual intercourse. I for one don't blame them if they give in. But even if you do reject it, it's not the sanctity of virginity that should worry parents and authorities first and foremost. The y should rather concentrate on the lack of sufficient precautions the teens take in relation to the risks of unwanted pregnancies and catching some venereal disease- most of all HIV and Aids.

Going by what I read I think KPAN and their clinics do a fine, sensible job; "voluntary counselling and testing and care, support and treatment" in order to "to reduce the number of abortions and the incidence of HIV/AIDS among teens" ( I quote a JP article on the survey).

Let's Talk About SEX said...

When talking about sex, it should deal with morality and responsibility.

Sex looks good on the outside, but eventually it ends up being insignificant if there's no bond behind it.

Rob Baiton said...

@ LTAS...

Perhaps, but it should not dominate proceedings and be incorporated as a abstinence you go to heaven vs. be tempted you go to hell scenario.

Responsibility is a different animal from morality. You can be responsible without needing to debate morality. For example, it is responsible to use a condom if one is about to engage in pre-marital (or even outside of marriage) sexual relations...whether you choose to use a condom is a question of responsibility and not morality.

@ Harry...

Maap! A need for some crass self-promotion:

I just posted on this topic (with a little more discussion on the pros and cons)...

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Luke said...

Hi Harry,
All I hope is that someone actually takes notice of these findings and instead of blaming TV, the Internet, Ariel and Luna and everything else they can think of, they actually consider the need for Sex, Drugs, Abortions, HIV and everything else considered Taboo and dirty and therefore morally corrupt to be acknowledged as part of today's society and actually make people aware of them so everyone is better informed.
Parents, Teachers, Religious leaders need to be less pious and condescending and actually support the idea of prevention and acceptance rather than denial and intolerance.
I hope this report creates discussion at a high level with positive and supportive outcomes for all rather condemnation and rebuke

H. Nizam said...

Hi Rob,

As a father of a young son, I share your opinion especially about the importance of educating our child about all things starting at our home.
The best approach to children would be to be their friends, beside being parents. A good parents-child communication must be maintained so that the child would want to be honest with us on all matters including sex.
Re: result of survey, although not as high as reported but I agree that free sex among young people here is not surprising.
I remember around 30 years ago many teenage I knew got pregnant.
There were also cases of thrown away unwanted babies.
I shall read your article about this.

@Let's Talk About Sex,
I agree that sex should be based on bonds between those who are doing it. I am rather old fashion on matters like this, what I meant by bond here is marriage.

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It would be great if there is a discussion on the result of survey.
That way the best way to raise and educate children can be found especially how to give sex education.

sawali tuhusetya said...

"heboh" seperti ini sebenarnya sudah lama muncul, mas. namun, pertanyaan yang selalu tak bisa dijawab, memang sudah demikian longgarkan nilai2 dan norma di negeri ini, hingga seks pun bukan lagi menjadi hal yang tabu di kalangan remaja-pelajar kiat? doh!

H. Nizam said...

Memang pergaulan anak muda sekarang cenderung bebas sekali.
Pelajaran yang kita bisa ambil adalah mendidik anak kita berdasarkan komunikasi 2-arah yang dekat, saling terbuka dengan demikian anak tidak sungkan bicara tentang apa saja, termasuk sex.
Lebih baik seorang anak mendapat informasi dari orang tua daripada dari orang lain.

H. Nizam said...

Hi Colson,
I finally found your comment on the Spam Inbox. I have been experiencing difficulties with the comment box whereby some comments have not been shown temporarily since last week. I hope things would be okay.

Re the topic:
The media has been emphasizing on "virginity" which is something that is still regarded "sacred" here. And virgin is only used describe girls who have not experienced sexual intercourse.
I agree that emphasize should rather be on the importance of giving sex education to teens so as to avoid unwanted pregnancies and/or venereal deceases esp. HIV/ AIDS.